Nothing is more heart-breaking to a parent than to lose a child, and to lose one at a very young age can be devastating. It is a parent’s worst nightmare to have to deal with the death of one so precious and still go on living afterward.
One young mother was faced with just such a crisis and saying goodbye, for her, turned into an even bigger problem than she could have anticipated.
Her grief was compounded when she learned that the $5,000 dollar headstone she had scrimped and saved for 3 years to pay for had been removed from her son’s grave after only three days. Why? Because a member of one other family with relatives buried in the cemetery complained to the city council about the headstone’s shape.
The Tribunist reported:
Max Corbett-Gardener was only 4 years old when he died from complications related to severe epilepsy. His mother, Jo Corbett-Weeks, scraped and saved for nearly three years to get an almost $5,000 specially-made headstone of a teddy bear holding a star inscribed with a heart touching tribute to her son.
But just three days later, Jo returned to find the headstone removed from Max’s grave.
She told local reporters: “It would have been Max’s seventh birthday on Sunday, and this was like a birthday present to him from me.
The boy’s mother had a very special reason for choosing that particular headstone:
“I chose a star-shaped stone because I wanted something suitable for Max – something personal. This stone is just so perfect for my poor little chap.
“I was totally unaware this was going on. The council did not contact me and it was the stonemason who told me he’d been ordered to remove it.
“I feel upset, distressed and angry. We have been through so much as a family. I could understand if the grave was uncared for or unsightly, but it isn’t.
“The headstone meant a lot to me and the family but now we are fighting to have it put back. It’s a horrible situation. We just want to have somewhere to grieve.”
Apparently, the headstone wasn’t conservative enough for the other cemetery patrons:
It turns out the council acted after a single member of another family with relatives buried in the cemetery.
“We have a conformity of shapes in our lawn cemetery. We were contacted by people who objected to the shape,” a Malvern Town Council spokesman explained to BBC.
“The longer it stayed up, the harder the process would have been. It was a very difficult decision to remove it but one we had to make straight away,” the spokesman said.